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ok first of all, i'm not a feminist nor a chauvinist nor an optimist nor uhh. i'm just a. uhh. hungry 18 y/o kid who is rn craving for some sweet food and who likes to question everything she reads, sees or hear. so last week, ada ssk lesson. sains komputer for those who doesn't know. anyway long story short we're given a task to create a ppt about ourselves and the instructor asked us to include a slide on our 'dream partner/ideal type' smtg like that ah. so occasionally she'd slip into some relationship tips thingy lol. aku pun konfius, ni kelas ssk ke kelas kursus kahwin. anyway, idk how it got there but suddenly she said that its totally okay for women to be smart and intelligent, but bila dengan husband not so much. i was like ??? what did she meant by that? turns out it means kau kena bodohkan diri kau sikit. kau tak boleh lagi bijak dari suami kau. ok. first of all, what the hell. i'm not super good in either marriage/agama wise but isn't that statement a bit..stupid? ironically enough. i'm not going to dumb myself down just for some..guy? ok, husband, whatever it is. just because you're intellectually inferior than i am why the hell am i supposed to lower mine? and why do women always have to be the weak one? granted, ada yang memang agak lembut and fragile and not so strong but those who aren't? do they need to appear weak just for the sake of her husband? give me some logical insights here and i might understand where do such principle ever exist. isn't marriage about idk, i'm just eighteen. but i thought it was supposed to be a companionship? one where you rely on each other strengths to fix each other weaknesses. come on la, wake up. kau ingat kahwin ni bajet sweet sweet je ke? relying on your husband completely..to the point of lowering your own pride..yes i know in islam, or any other religion for that matter , a husband is supposed to guide you. but you are your own person. no need to make yourself look dumb just for the sake of your husband's ego. go to hell la dengan ego dia. just my own two cents. this is why i doubt if i'll ever going to get married in the future lol. i'm not going to be a damsel in the distress just for some 'love and care and affection' from some dude when i'm not one in the first place. why can't i just be myself instead? ciao.
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